Thursday 26 May 2016

Looking After Number One - Mental Health May

As May is Mental Health Awareness Month, I thought it was a good opportunity to share some ways in which I've been looking after my own mental health.  Ironically or not, it was a year ago, in May 2015, when I realised a person's mental health is more fragile than I'd ever imagined.  I'd always considered myself to be a fairly strong, extrovert person so it caught me off-guard when I discovered that I'm not invincible.  Thankfully, a strong team of family, friends and colleagues encouraged me to visit my doctor and get some help.  

Since then, I've personally vowed to put my mental health above almost everything else but particularly above work.  All of the following tips have contributed to me having a much better year. 
  • Work email removed from phone - This was one of the first things I did. I'd often check my emails just before bed and then struggle to sleep because of what I'd read.  I now have to physically choose to look at my work emails at a time which suits me rather than have them interrupt my life.  
"Life is full of little interruptions" - Taylor Swift
  • Notifications Off - This was the second thing I did.  I didn't realise quite how much my phone notifications were breaking up my day.  With those interruptions gone, I focus much better on friends, family and work. 
  • Time limits for work - I made it 8pm for me.  I don't always stick to it but I try to stop at 8pm every evening.  It was important to let my team know that, if they need me urgently after that time, they should text me.  
  • Saying "no" - I'd always been a yes person, trying to please everyone I encounter.  Unfortunately, that just wasn't healthy and made me incredibly busy.  It's perfectly OK to say "no" and I'm learning to be OK with that!
"Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy." - Elle Woods (Legally Blonde)
  • Saying "yes" to exercise - I originally thought the best way to help myself would be to stop doing things so I cancelled all my netball and stoolball matches and stopped running.  With hindsight, this was the wrong thing to do.  Exercise is so important and I felt my best when I started playing in a team again. 
  • Removing the guilt - It's so easy, as a teacher, to feel guilty about cutting corners and working less. I like to think that I'm working smarter rather than less hard but the truth is I have literally had to cut things that I used to do for work. This is probably the hardest thing to do...I'm still trying! 
  • Enjoying housework - Never before have I understood how people can enjoy housework.  I found it very theraputic and would often do some ironing in front of the TV to keep my mind busy.  
"There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won't cure...but I don't know many of them." - Sylvia Plath
  • Long, quiet, relaxing baths - I've always hated baths.  By accident, I ended up needing one to help some paint soak so it could be removed from my hands.  Eureka!  Baths are actually really enjoyable.  Add in some lavender baths salts, oil or my favourite bath bomb (who knew they could be so fun?!), a few lavender candles and a Kindle; a perfect recipe for relaxation. 
  • Reading - I've never really been one to read non-fiction but I found myself being inspired once again by Katie Piper's story and message of hope.  Over the summer holidays, I read her book, Things Get Better, which uses her acid-attack experience as a backbone to show that we can all survive life's setbacks.  I also found the daily motivational quotes and commentary in Demi Lovato's book, Staying Strong, useful. 
"It's good to do nothing and rest afterwards." - Spanish Proverb (and my dad!) 
  • Getting a massage - I agree with Sylvia Plath (now) about baths but I'd suggest a hot-stone massage can do the trick too.  My in-laws bought me a voucher for one as a present and I've returned again and again at appropriate times during the school year.  They are so relaxing that I have to have a long rest afterwards at home!! 
I feel this post must come with an important disclaimer.  Firstly, just because any one of these tips worked for me doesn't mean it will improve your own mental health or work-life balance.  Secondly, if you are really struggling with your emotions and wellbeing, your first port-of-call should be your GP who can recommend treatment in an appropriate form.  Finally, as I often say on this blog, those of you who are full-time class teachers with children at home are absolute heroes to me.  I have no idea how you do it and have endless admiration for you.  So many of the things that have helped me would be nigh-impossible with some mini-mes running around! Parents - I salute you. 


  1. This is fantastic advice, thankyou.

  2. I can recognise everything you have said and am struggling with. The extrovert can't say no type, if people I worked with knew the truth that inside I crumble and need a tablet every day to keep strong they would doubtless be in shock. I teach full time and have 2 demanding kids at home too. Quitting is not an option but at what sacrifice do you put your health first? Giving up on what could be a rewarding career and is a rewarding career without the hoops. I'm rubbish at home on my own. I too have rekindled a drive for exercise but am not ready for tablet loss yet. Keep smiling, thank you for your wisdom. ❤

  3. This is something I can totally relate to. I take on too much and then end up breaking. Home and school life is exceptionally difficult at the moment and both have made me feel like I have hit rock bottom. I love my job and my class light up each and every day I have with them but sometimes that isn't enough. I have learned the hard way that no matter how hard you work, how much you do, how hard you try that you can't please everyone. I have been forced to take a step back and re-evaluate. I know that now is the time to put myself first for the first time in my life. The one thing I would add totally add to the list is time out with the people you love and those who make you smile. Putting the world to rights over a coffee or a glass of wine can be so therapeutic and just the tonic when you are feeling that you are just not good enough. At the moment it is my family and friends who are getting me through. I have also booked myself a spa day with one of my beasties over Easter. Can't wait.
    I am going to do a few more things on your list too.
    Thanks for the advice.❤


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